<?xml version="1.0" encoding="iso-8859-1"?><rss version="1.0"><channel><title>Diary of Lissome Lady</title><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/</link><description>Diary of Lissome Lady</description><language>en-us</language><item><title>NIGHT O NIGHT</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial Black'"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 'Blackadder ITC'">This piece is dedicated to one the most promising Taras on our Zameen -Vidushi<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>Chaudhry, who loves words and the eternal songs they sing to her soul. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></B><P></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial Black'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; COLOR: #339966; FONT-FAMILY: 'Baskerville Old Face'">Night comes mourning the death of the day and sits brooding over the huddle of the forests and undulating fields. It embraces treacherous mountains and settles on the babbling brooks, it ravishes the gigantic seas that cower beneath it and complain in a mutter of waves. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial Black'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 24pt; COLOR: fuchsia; FONT-FAMILY: 'Brush Script MT'">Night comes in a silken caress and strokes the aching limbs of swollen lovers, who arch one more time to the heaving music of its velvet shadows. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 20pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Brush Script MT'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial Black'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Night comes in an arrogant stride and falls back as the lighted streets cast neon glares on empty streets and drives it back to the edges of the barren plains and misty hills. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial Black'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; COLOR: gray; FONT-FAMILY: 'Berlin Sans FB'">Night comes in blotches of pitch to hide the murky shame of nocturnal haunts, the cracked laughter of audacious whores, the blessed inebriation of compulsive drunks and the diseased wounds of homeless waifs.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial Black'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 22pt; COLOR: #993366; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bodoni MT'">Night comes like an avenging messiah to protect its minions, the army of life that crawls and creeps and glides and hops to its celebratory tunes and toasts. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bernard MT Condensed'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; COLOR: #99cc00; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bernard MT Condensed'">Night comes as an inky accomplice to shroud the dark deeds of those whom the light indicts as anti-social, criminal and base. They transact in cloaked cunning, sharpen their tools, and sell their wares in stealthy glee.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; COLOR: #99cc00; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bernard MT Condensed'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 24pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Chiller">Night comes howling with storm and rain to applaud the witching hour for ghosts and ghouls and their companion <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>bats, rats, cats, owls, snakes and roaches. It greets the netherworld of vampires, voodoo men, banshees and jasmine laden yakshis in placid moonlit groves</SPAN></B><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 20pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Chiller">. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 20pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Chiller"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 20pt; COLOR: fuchsia; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'">Night seeps in, casting cobwebbed shadows of fatigue and fitful smudges of sleep on minds weary of the day's sore labour. Night soothes the ear with the music of crickets and the rhythmic croak of toads, relieving the mind of the clamour of the day's plastic sounds</SPAN></B><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; COLOR: fuchsia; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'">. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 20pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bodoni MT Black'">NIGHT! Black as ink, as ebony, as pitch, as despair, as guilt, as sin, as death.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial Black'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 18pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 'Cooper Black'">Guy Fawkes Bonfire Night. Krystal Nacht. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The Parting of the Yamuna. The Burning <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>of Holika. Halloween Night. The Trojan Horse. Nav Ratri. Alexander kills Poru. Silent Night Holy Night.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial Black'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 20pt; COLOR: #339966; FONT-FAMILY: 'Australian Sunrise'">Night the only Mother of the New Born Day.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Arial Black'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home8/598/ee2ae47d70fb2c999468b3c360d6cb16/homep/images/1219215848">]]></description><pubDate>Wed, 20 Aug 2008 12:22:47 +0530</pubDate><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/20/NIGHT-O-NIGHT-1.html</link></item><item><title>IDEAS FOR THE RELUCTANT CHILD WRITER</title><description><![CDATA[<P><FONT face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=5>I have had so much negative crap in the last two days that I need to heal. And the only way to heal is to give. Let  me share with you  all something that I had devised recently to help the reluctant child writer. Those of you who have children or know of people who have children, might want to use some of these ideas. This, after all, is who I really am. </FONT></P><P><FONT face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=5>I dedicate this post to fellow blogger Sarath Chandra despite my many differences with him, he remains a person I have enjoyed knowing. </FONT></P><P><FONT face="Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=5></FONT> </P><FONT size=5><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: center" align=center><B><U><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">IDEAS FOR THE RELUCTANT CHILD WRITER <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></U></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">The purpose of a Free Journal as part of the English curriculum is to provide the child with unrestricted opportunity to express thoughts and ideas, to practice writing as a skill and to explore topics that are close to the heart.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">In all good schools, it is a routine practice internationally, to use the writing journal from grade 1 when the child begins to write, up to grade 12 where it is assessed for the Board examinations.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Whereas the grade 1 child would write on topics like: My birthday party; My aunt's new cat; I love going to the beach; My favourite food or My pet caterpillar, the grade 12 goes through two years of personal, social and political observations to choose 10 items to be sent up as a testimony of the 'growth of the mind' and how the English course has influenced their thoughts and responses to life.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>As I find a lot of angst among parents regarding free journal, I am writing this note to help you not only to see the benefits but also to give you some ideas on how you can proceed. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Journal writing must be done every week. If it is a chore for the child, he/she will be unhappy, if he/she sees it as an exciting journey, he will love it. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Invest in a good writing book - the kind that invites the child to write.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>You can create an index of weeks /topics/ remarks. This makes it look organized and<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>manageable and official. Encourage decorations, stickers, illustrations, photos to make it colourful and inviting.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Reluctant writers should be made to develop their writing skills in small steps. Negotiate a slow and steady increase in the quantity. Begin with a few lines and gradually increase it.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>Free writing has no word limits, so there is no need to be anxious over small pieces. What is important is that writing has quality and the child is using good vocabulary and similes, description and overall the writing improves over time.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>If the writing is over- corrected or the child feels he can never be good enough, then that demotivates the child. Always comment on what is good and give a few suggestions on where to improve. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">An adult's initial participation in an activity means a lot to the child. So reading texts or stories together, researching the net for a topic, talking about issues  all of these are ways to get the child to begin writing with enjoyment and enthusiasm. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Pictures are excellent prompts for writing and the newspapers are full of it. Make a collection together to choose from, for writing. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>These can be used for simple descriptions of what the picture is, to imaginative description of any one character, or what will happen next, or a make believe story. The child could write a story, a dialogue or a mystery around it. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Family and photo albums are great ways to write about family and friends and occasions when the pictures were taken.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>When pictures get stuck in the journal they come alive, making it a thing of joy and pride. If the child is proud of his/her journal <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>he/she will even want to make a first draft in rough and write the real thing neatly in the journal. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Get children to don the Reporter's cap.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>They could look at news items on sports, films, technology, advertisement and weather every week and make a newspage.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>A piece of news on what is happening in the world, environment, science can be read together and the child can report it in his/her own words. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Cartoons, recipes, jokes, TV shows, observation of people around, interviewing people for information are all great motivators for the reluctant writer. Let us ask grandfather what he used to play with when he was a child is a way to gather information and then write about it.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>You need to plan the journey together. This week what shall we write about? Let us do this.. Let the reluctant child feel that you are part of it. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Research is a great way to gather content. Surf the net for information on cars, airplanes, kings, robots, magic, animals etc. This will also enhance search skills. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Once there are points to write, the child will feel more supported. The journal, as you can see, is a vehicle for all round growth.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">The child can also be asked to do book/film/TV show reviews. He/she can discuss with you general topics like money, weather, sports, movies, clothes food.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>If you eat at a new restaurant, encourage the child to write a report on how good it was, give it stars on space, food, service, ambiance etc.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>Was it child- friendly? If the child does this over a few weeks, a bar graph can be constructed on the quality of competing restaurants. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Imaginative topics are an endless source of fun in writing. What if I were a .. puppy, a witch doctor, a pilot.. I had three heads, if I could read minds..we lived in trees. If I were the President of the <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /><st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">United States</st1:place></st1:country-region>. .<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Creating characters is fun too. Looking for weird names, strange features and behaviours. Creating locales to describe.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>Making a police docket of the most wanted gangs. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Stories of adventures can be made from motley characters. The child can take random people, creatures, objects, locations, problems and create fantastic stories. E.g. a bad tempered dog, a bag of diamonds, an escaped lunatic, a car with faulty brakes, a sleepy policeman : connect them and make a story. Random words can be generated from a dictionary. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">You can also fold a paper into two halves and in one half make a list of random people like a retired doctor, Shah Rukh Khan, a mean housewife, a paranoid parrot, a pious thief etc. on the other half make a list of actions like stealing<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>flowers,<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>spying on a neighbourhood house, mending a broken mixie, dancing on the street, playing in the park etc.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>Make these into chits and pick one from each set. Combine and you get a story like. I saw Shah Rukh Khan playing in the park or I saw a retired doctor stealing flowers..I saw an alien washing his dog.. A funny story can be built.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Use an encyclopedia to find out rare facts and the child can write them in his /her own words.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>These can even be cleverly incorporated in a story. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">The child could do a brag story or a tall tale and tell all the lies that he wants. The bigger the lie the better the story.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Create debate scenarios where the child has to play the devil's advocate. Why it is good to sleep late or why latecomers should be given a reward, or why writing is better than reading, or holidays are boring. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">An easy thing to do is to report weekend activities. Plan good ones like going on a bird watch; driving around and counting cops, garbage bins, open spaces in a locality; meeting unusual people; visits to theatres and galleries; book shops and art exhibitions; visiting a market; celebrating a festival; attending a public meeting; watching a street procession; going to a temple; visiting a factory, a day at the zoo; watching kala ghoda street artists.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>All these are experiences that can be described using sense vocabulary, people, event and locale descriptions.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Use poetry. Visit poetry sites and read aloud. Make a collection of good poetry over time. Draw a picture of a poem. Let the child write a similar one. Listen to songs and categorise them according to themes.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Advertisements, jingles, brochures for a cake shop, travel posters, design a new gadget, make a magical product. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Do something new. Bake a dish, do a craft, do a science experiment and let the child report the procedure.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">More topics: Invent a phobia and explain it. A box of secrets. My neighbour is an alien. The evil robot. A bad habit. A weird dream. A street fight. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Like a diary, the journal can be therapeutic. The things I like and the things I hate.. I am annoyed with.. I am pained by.. I love it when.. I wish... This can lead to useful insights into the hopes dreams aspirations and fears of the child. The child could also be encouraged to make<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>'gratitude journal' entries on the things he/she is blessed with and what he/she should be thankful for. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Introduce the child to philosophy with right/wrong, good/ bad/ is it ethical kind of stories to write about.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>Introduce the child to social causes. Visit an old age home with gifts, drive through a slum, go to a blind school to help with reading, donate to an orphanage and the child will be overflowing with content and caring. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Your participation is very important. Your enthusiasm is infectious. If you read great descriptions and drool together the child will learn to love the language. When you discuss you bond with your child, when you mind-map on paper you teach and reinforce the skill. When you encourage vocabulary you make the words your child's own.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">If you use the ideas I have given you here, there is enough writing work for a couple of years.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>By which time you won't have a reluctant writer, you will have a writer who shoos you away with<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>"please mom, I know what to write.. " <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Please see the free writing journal as a great opportunity for the child not just to write but to make him/her a whole person, reflective, compassionate, well informed and fulfilled. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Good luck and Best Wishes.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P></FONT> </P><P><FONT size=5></FONT> </P><P><FONT size=5></FONT> </P><P> </P><P> </P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home8/598/ee2ae47d70fb2c999468b3c360d6cb16/homep/images/1218956826">]]></description><pubDate>Sun, 17 Aug 2008 12:21:35 +0530</pubDate><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/17/IDEAS-FOR-THE-RELUCTANT-CHILD-WRITER.html</link></item><item><title>THE NATURE OF THE BEAST OF DEBATING</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Love me or hate me, my blog page is the only one that consistently generates discussions amongst my ilander friends who enjoy a good discussion/debate. I am proud of the fact that these men and women are great thinkers and we share a great comraderie despite our many differences. Difference is often the key to a good discussion, not consensus. Consensus is the larger good that happens when we have trashed out all our differences. It is generally a mindset that has altered because it has been exposed to other angles. It cannot go back to being the same again. </FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4></FONT></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>What happens on my blogs may be unique but it is not particularly praise worthy, because it is just an extension of one of the things I do in life with children and young adults. A discussion is meant to see all sides of an issue and is based largely on facts and valid supportable opinions. A debate that crops up from the discussions where two different people take opposing stands is fought to win. The rules of debating are very different. The side with the best arguments, and the most powerful way of expressing them, wins. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>But a debate is a civilized argument. Its first rule is politeness where one may not indulge in name-calling, personal insinuations, sulking, making blanket judgements, or harbouring feelings of rancour and enmity after the duration of the argument. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Debates help us see all sides of an issue, organize thoughts and express them clearly, listen attentively and argue politely, take turns <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>and allow everyone to have a say, use language as a powerful tool, convince and persuade, think quickly on our feet for rebuttals and get a powerful sense of team spirit.<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Debating is a life activity. Whether it is about what to order in a restaurant, or who will be Cricket captain, or why <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /><st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">India</st1:place></st1:country-region> should do the nuke deal, we argue all the time with other people when we have to make group choices. Advertisers, politicians, salespersons and lawyers are some professionals who use arguments to make a living. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Debates are not always benign. The opponents do provoke a counter argument, they do slight and nudge the other team to clarify, explain and defend their points of view. As a structured activity, it is not for the faint-hearted or the fragile. Intellectual alertness, quick thinking, resourceful argument, and tenacity are expected traits to win an argument. You also need to have a way with words, to be sharp and slicing without resorting to foul language or getting personal. Wit is a great aid in this. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>A lot of children whine after thy lose and accuse the other team of cheating, bullying, personal grudges etc. These are a result of their immaturity. The way to<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>deal with these problems would be to point out to the opponent the flaw as they see it during the debate and not afterwards. For example: You are being personal, your argument is targeted at slurring my personal image and not at the issue on hand, you are being facetious, your arguments seem to be hollow you need to support them, dismissing my argument is not enough, please supply us with more facts etc.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  Once you teach them the fallacies of argument they are empowered to say you are resorting to ad hominem or you are slippery sloping etc.   </SPAN>Anyone leaving the platform in a huff is not likely to win the gold. And so it is in life, folks. Anyone leaving the arena is not likely to make any changes. If you leave the battlefield, you become a non-entity. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><FONT size=4><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Debating is not part of our school and growing years as part of a life- skills curriculum and therefore as adults we Indians, often do not know how to debate. You will often find people taking umbrage, indulging in vituperative battles, abandoning the issue in favour of  personal mudslinging and violence. This happens  in the parliament, in any meetings where Indian adults congregate to discuss an issue, we fight like cats and dogs and all of us talk together on TV interviews and chat shows. And shamefully, we carry grudges after that. It is ridiculous.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>A good discussion tempers debates. When the format is of a discussion, with debates within, it allow the debators to move out of the ambit of the debate and accept the views of others, or even if they win, to acknowledge the contribution of thought of the other. As adults even if we are in a pure debate we need to do this. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>A debator never leaves the field at a loose end.  So in my debate with Sarath (Pro-Life Or Quality of Life blog) <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> where </SPAN>the scale of destruction on the planet due to global warming was the issue, this is my clousure.  My understanding <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>was that 2/3 or 66% <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>of the population was at stake, which to me is what it must be if what we hear of 'catastrophic' gw consequences is true, and Sarath's <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>was that it was only 'fraction of one percent'. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Two extreme and opposing numbers. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4></FONT></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Sarath asked me to look up the site:<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4><A href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IPCC_Fourth_Assessment_Report">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IPCC_Fourth_Assessment_Report</A></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Amit supplied the original IPCC site: <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><A href="http://www.ipcc.ch/pdf/assessment-report/ar4/syr/ar4_syr_spm.pdf"><FONT size=4>http://www.ipcc.ch/pdf/assessment-report/ar4/syr/ar4_syr_spm.pdf</FONT></A><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4></FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Then the debate turned sour and personal with Sarath ready to resign and crying 'unfair' and feeling judged. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>But, armed with these <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>sites, when the debate began to turn sour, I did a good read of both sites, especially the 22 page IPCC report. To my surprise, there was no mention of any of Sarath's arguments in these two documents. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>His claims were:<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>1. GW not "anywhere near as catastrophic as you seem to suggest here (2/3rds of us die?)". <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>2. Food production increase for 4 degree raise. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>3. Many disadvantages that are well known and overblown. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>4. GHGs stabilizing in 2050. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>5. 1% in casualities (not "affected", but "deaths"). <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>6. Talk about disadvantages of GW to reduce emissions, and not use "against nature" argument.<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Not one of these 5 points is mentioned in the report. The sixth point is linked to the larger debate of nature vs science and is irrelevant to this context - though it is the  original thrust of the blog. </FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>On the contrary, the report takes the opposite view.<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p></o:p></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>The report said exactly what I had read randomly several times. I have also read reports where the writers dismiss gw as 'gw my arse..', so its not that I am unaware of a lobby that says gw is all bunkum and alarmist.<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>However this one speaks of:<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Agricultural land aridity, shrinking<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>and water logged forests, water resources, heat, flooding and droughts, malnutrition, diarrohea, cardio reperatory illnesses, morbidity and mortality, ocean acidification and marine life destruction, heat waves and overload on health services, coral bleaching, eco system imbalances and species lost, low produce in agriculture and fisheries, storms and 30% loss of wetlands, flash floods decrease in snow cover and glacier retreats, polluting megadeltas and escalating aridity. The ill effects of over population, urbanization, economic crises in this web of natural disasters following climate change is predicted throughout the document. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>World hunger is a big concern. In fact a 50 % decrease in food in poorer countries by 2020 is predicted. Water stress is a major problem with either flooding or droughts that will be widespread. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>To my mind, this kind of interconnected disaster scenario is more likely to see deaths and damage in the vicinity of 66% than 1%. As I said, at the first stage of this argument, rising sea levels will leave people nowhere to run. (Nature punishments are likely to outrun human ingenuity and science) We have not colonized mars or moon to send people out there either. I reckon fraction of 1% which Sarath says is 100million is presumably at 12 b population which is double our present population. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>100 million in our 6 and a half billion, is probably lost even now every year to disease, old age and wars. Can those be the death figures post GW disasters?<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>To clear my doubts and support my hypothesis, I <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>researched global poverty to see how many of our present population could be at risk. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>The global poor constitute 80% of world population that is a whopping 4 billion who have less than $ 5 a day as disposable income. (Harvard Study) http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item/5529.html<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>Given the damage to the environment and the various disasters, waiting to happen, these 4 billion will be the first ones to go. When pushed to the wall, where Nature does not discriminate between the rich and the poor, I do not see a lot of altruism flowing. In fact, when put to a crunch, men have a tendency to be most selfish, pugnacious and defensive for their own survival and comfort. This is often witnessed in post earthquake areas, before aid begins to trickle in and order is restored. <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT size=4>So, I conclude that none of Sarath's claims hold water. Debates, I reiterate must stay with facts and issues and not deteriorate into emotional parts where we accuse one another of skullduggery and bullying in order to avoid research, deliberation and debate. That would amount to intellectual laziness and avoidance. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>To defend one's stance with proper evidenced backup is to truly honour the spirit of debating. Not having any rancour afterwards is to be able to say we are not merely grown up but truly mature.<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home8/598/ee2ae47d70fb2c999468b3c360d6cb16/homep/images/1218855406">]]></description><pubDate>Sat, 16 Aug 2008 08:03:12 +0530</pubDate><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/16/THE-NATURE-OF-THE-BEAST-OF-DEBATING-1.html</link></item><item><title>PRO LIFE OR QUALITY OF LIFE?</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Indian law needs to be amended. We have problems that must not be given a verdict on the rules laid down in 1820. The world we live in is not the same. Technology has progressed at a rapid rate in the last 100 years and each year has add-on dimensions to this that are mind-boggling. For example, we had no surrogate motherhood or test-tube babies then. We now have a surrogate baby whose Japanese parents are divorced, the mother has disowned the child and the father (now single) cannot adopt a female child. The baby stuck in a Jaipur hospital is all set to be India's first surrogate orphan. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">We now have a battery of tests to detect fetal defects and such knowledge of deformity can be devastating. One would imagine that the testing itself precludes the opportunity to make decisions as opposed to earlier times when we just prayed for a healthy child. The age of the foetus when it can be legally aborted is 20 weeks. The basis for this is not clear. By week 6 the baby has even grown rudimentary eyes, ears and digestive tract. It is only in the first two weeks that it is a clump of cells with potential life.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>By the 13 weeks called the first trimester, when abortion is legal, the baby has all vital organs and a brain to respond to reflexes. So what exactly is legal about killing that life as opposed to 25 weeks when the child has a face and nails and a more developed brain where it becomes worthy of a court battle on the national stage? <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">The right to life lobby argues that any feticide is fetal homicide or murder. The Pope extends this to the ban on contraception in the assumption that the egg and sperm are potential life. One can then extrapolate to a ban on male masturbation as sperms are lost in ejaculation. If they could control the unconscious reflex of nocturnal emissions, I wonder if they would make a anti wet dream pill mandatory for men?<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>The problem is always about where we draw the line and whether our reasoning is in tune with the laws of nature.</SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Then there should be a right to 'quality of life' for which there seems to be no group fighting the cause. Ironic. You fight for the foetus and abandon the child. If one were to look around at beggar children sniffing glue and in a state of complete neglect, malnourished, diseased and abused on a daily basis and reflect on the complete lack of groups like the Greenies and Pro- Lifers or even Animal- Rights or Save the Tiger or Global Warming activists to help them,  you again come to the question  of what moves us and what does not move us as human beings.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>There is no 'Save the Child' campaign, no opposition to the Pro- Lifers by a group of Quality of Lifers, who demand the right for children to basic roti, kapda, makan or the duty to not have them at all. I have discussed this before in my blog 'The Parent Trap' under Parenting. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Once again if we were to pick up the issue of euthanasia or mercy killing there is tremendous reluctance for legalizing this as we see it as a tool of abuse and extortion or corruption by relatives who might bump off an oldie who is ill but not fatally so. In our earnestness to protect a few we end up putting a large number of terminally ill people who are not only too old but also in great pain from terminating their agony. Again, we choose the rights of some over others. Who gives us the right to do that?<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>On what basis can we as humans stand on judgement over someone else's problems when it is not our own? <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Hence, the suffering of humanity goes unchecked and unabated. Our amazing capacity to ignore their pain allows us to shake our heads, click our tongues in mock sympathy, and move on. Farmers commit suicides, the girl child is raped, the anemia of  multiple pregnancies in women, horror stories are told of unsupervised orphanages, unrealistic adoption practices keep babies in emotional want even as childless couples yearn to love them, hole-in-the-wall clinics make a killing and corrupt administrations bless them and we have no lobbying, no placards, no sustained media page, no Rights movements to protest.</SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">Actually when I am on the subject of neglect let us look at more killers out there who Protest groups have missed. Passive smoking, noise pollution, road rage, pesticide poisoning; anger, isolation and depression, unbridled urbanization and loss of values, speed and obnoxious economic growth  they are all killers. Anyone heard of groups for these causes?  Sure we fight their end results which could be anything from food poisoning, global warming, infrastructure shortage to terrorism at a bleat level. </SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'">We enjoy looking at symptomatic cures like Alcoholic Anonymous, anti tobacco campaigns, Ban bar- girls groups, anti prostitution laws etc. We are reluctant to look into the deeper malaise that lies at the heart of problems which are given our quick-fix solutions because they are difficult truths to face and require more work than words to be yelled out.  And that, is the essential difference between a Pro-Life and a Quality of Life Activist. </SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> There is a  difference between giving birth and bringing up a child. The difference between an automatic right and an earned privilege.</o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home8/598/ee2ae47d70fb2c999468b3c360d6cb16/homep/images/1217998556">]]></description><pubDate>Wed, 06 Aug 2008 10:13:38 +0530</pubDate><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/06/PRO-LIFE-OR-QUALITY-OF-LIFE.html</link></item><item><title>DYNAMICS OF CHATROOM BEHAVIOUR  PART II</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>When I introduce the topic 'Law' to 8 year olds I often ask them, if there was anything in the world you could do and no one found out and there were no consequences to your actions, <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>what would you do? The answers are often innocently mischievous and sometimes out-of-the-box and amusing. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>On chat, I find some real answers with real people to that question. Chat is action without consequence and so you can indulge in any form of verbal banter, abuse, diarrhea and slander without anyone finding out who you are. <BR>And the results are amazing. What fascinates me is how this adheres so closely to life. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>The community of faceless, nameless people base their words/ moves/ actions on the basic premises that all human communities use: Power  Sex  Clan. The transient nature of the chatroom where a click of the mouse gets you out and away forever, or the ignore button allows you to hide the a person even as he/she <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>exists for everyone else, (like in science fantasies) adds dimensions to this fundamental areas of human engagement. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>Masks allow the person beneath to be of any form or hue. He/she could be snarling, amused, lecherous, bored, wily, conniving but he could put forth a face that is the opposite. The lack of body language and voice allows for gullibility and for misunderstandings galore. In between these, creeps in attitudes and stances that foster groups of dominant and submissive chatizens who prey and are preyed upon. Personal slander, intellectual snobbery, cowardice in appeasing the bully, kowtowing to the verbally astute, envy of those who appear unfazed by the rest, relentless, unbridled propositioning, and brazen soliciting go on with such in-your-face candour that the whole narrative of reticence and self-restraint is written in a new script.<o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>The chutzpah of chat is outrageous and shrouded in cowardice. This gives free rein for every tall claim to be made. Graphic details of what a man is going <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>do to a female chatter as abuse is spread out before a numb-to-shock audience. The irony is that these are everyday people who are<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>characters in a charade of make believe. However, the anger, lust, frustrations, envy are palpable and real. Because these nicknames bond and form cliques there is the 'us' and 'them' syndrome that is operational in chats. Newcomers or purposeful chatters, in order to be noticed and engaged with at a sustained level, therefore dole out more outrage. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>There is a reputation to be maintained as personal slander, especially where say-whatyou-please is the norm, can amount to grand scale calumny. The irony is that no one really cares. The vain avenger therefore brandishes his whip, uses his caps lock in a shout mode and virtually draws blood to no avail. For people who watch helplessly, what we have here are masks and <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>handles to cover the real people, who then have virtual identities and <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>reputations which they attempt to protect by</FONT></FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4> playing safe and avoiding confrontations. </FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4></FONT></FONT></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>Not even a mask can get the man/woman to be honest about a bully. Fear of bullies is so endemic that there is no hope in real of anyone standing up to obvious evil. Don't we know that!<o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>Chat is obsessed with age and looks. 'Old' and 'ugly' are terms of abuse as if such people have no place there. So then, is it a pick up joint? Most men and women would deny that about themselves till they are blue in the face, considering they are there most waking hours, <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>but still use it as a put-down amongst themselves. The 'I am Ok but everyone else is a whore or pimp' is rampant. Many people in life have this problem. The hypocrisy of it is disgusting at worst and amusing at best. The truth about chat is it is not a pick up joint. It is just a place where a lot of bored men and women take a break and yes some get picked up, some actively look to pick up and still others hope there is more to life than their present stations. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>There are serial abusers who are often put on ignore. These men and some women come to vent spleen. They are perhaps marginalised people either in their workplaces or homes who desperately need to be vituperative. Their abuse is like a man standing in the middle of a busy square and screaming  out loud. The strange bit here is those who indulge in this manner do not respect the rights of others to kick them back. They expect the other to be 'decent' even as they flaunt their malice. I see such double standards in public and political life. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>The power game is played out by the intellectually superior, by those who live abroad and talk down to the desis, by those who are 'perceived' to be all male or all female kind, the young against the old, the educated against the not so educated <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>and so on. Power games with masks are lethal. Most often it is just an obnoxious rant and often pathetic despite the apparent advantage. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>Finally men and men and women women in stereotypical contexts. Exceptions to these are resented. Men have sex on their mind and will lure, cajole, flirt and flatter to that end. All roads lead to <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /><st1:City w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Rome</st1:place></st1:City>. Men who are masked certainly reveal their unmasked persona. Again the hypocrisy of: I don't care what you look like, how old you are, what you do etc is a standard script written <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>without any cross-referential training. It is like it's programmed in their genes. It is laughable. The assumption that women on chat have unhappy marriages or are there to mingle is what most men hold as truth as this makes the women easy targets. The conservatism in the Indian male is paradoxically very visible once they are masked. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>Some women are vain and soppy, play hard-to-get and when got become clingy, sentimental and needy and once hooked are often ill-treated. Women who stand up to men are either called men in disguise or ugly and old. Therefore, there is a pettiness that is sad. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>Often men who come across as sensible and non-abusive will remain silent in the face of others who abuse. They will even befriend these to avoid confrontations. The chivalrous or courageous male is almost non-existent. Life does not throw up many of these either. The dominant alpha male kind who is aggro and spewing invectives is feared by men and women who kowtow to them with a lot of ingratiating lolling (laughing out loud) and yes men ship. The very same people will decry them behind their backs. In real life, it is the same or would we be in this state of moral and ethical penury as a nation? <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4>If you are a people watcher, you will enjoy watching chat. If you observe, you will see many trends in human behaviour that will reflect what you already know from life. What is different is you get to view a stage of men and women interacting on a daily basis and see how they shape up like dramatis personae in a tragi-comedy called Life. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>They are masked and this reveals a great deal more than they would ever let you see in real life. So the value of chat to study human psychology, especially the male/female kind, has been under-utilized. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"><FONT size=4><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size=4> </FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home8/598/ee2ae47d70fb2c999468b3c360d6cb16/homep/images/1217687911">]]></description><pubDate>Sat, 02 Aug 2008 20:12:48 +0530</pubDate><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/02/DYNAMICS-OF-CHATROOM-BEHAVIOUR-PART-II.html</link></item><item><title>THE VIRTUAL WORLD OF CHAT  PART I</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">'Second Life'<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>is a parallel<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>virtual world <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>created on the web where, as expressed in its title, people can have a second life  one in which they play God and choose for themselves identities and personas that have been hitherto only<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>dreamt of or achieved by<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>dint of hard labour or genetic happenstance. The lame can walk and the mute can sing. One can get married have kids, do business, own a house and do whatever in the virtual space. To what end? Psychological of course  the feel good factor, the delete button that will erase all flaws of now and allow the person to morph into the stud, the superman/woman, the sex bomb, the whiz kid, the millionaire and have another go. Virtual identities and interactions create real feelings and that is the core substance on which these worlds are sustainable not only in terms of interest but also longevity of engagement. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">The computer revolution in India as far as the common man was concerned, began in 1993  fifteen years ago, when only a smattering of corporate men and women could afford it  thanks to the multinationals they worked in. Then the only function was the email and a few sites which offered what I shall euphemistically call the 'forbidden'. Today we have so much technology and communication that not only have all things clandestine become possible, but they have also become blasé. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The chats began in 1996 and again it was for those savvy to the extent possible in a nascent field, where others were still struggling with one finger typing, who could be on the forum and enjoy the luxury or banality of spending hours with a community that must have seemed like second life seems today. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Chatrooms morphed into many things for many people the most common being the presence of women shrouded by tanatalising nicks, never mind some were men in disguise, who could raise<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>the interest of men who filled the gap with their fantasies. This must have been huge titillation to a lot of repressed men who had little interaction with women socially, especially if they were married, middle aged and adipose. Why even the young, the shy, the reticent would have sought to find that elusive man/ woman in the midst of the crowd stalking the rooms in veils that beckoned.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">To be fair there were amongst these people, those who were there to simply meet other people. Though not averse to other pleasures that might serendipitously come their way, they were basically looking for contacts in business or like minded people, be they men or women, to talk to at an intellectual level. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">When there is anonymity, the human is a different animal. Like rioting and pilfering when the law is dysfunctional or crisis hit, the masked entity is capable of the kind of culpable behaviour, the kind he would have denied even to himself before the virtual era. The mask unravelled a whole host of desires, behaviours, instincts that were hitherto concealed by the need to be socially accepted in a real world, the id was ready to raise its head. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">So, cyber sex, chat rage, power games, serial abusing, cross-dressing, manipulation and in some cases confidence tricks, blackmail and exploitation came to rule chat more than its innocuous label intended. With this, the assumption that only the proverbial loser would be part of chat - be it the pervert, the wastrel, the idle woman, the unemployed man, the sexually starved or the fiend cum manipulator preying on the less fortunate - actually kept most people away from chat rooms.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Yet there was no denying the attractions of escape and sublimation that these rooms made possible. For many who discovered the joys of chatting it was a routine to a full time activity. Many people log on to chat rooms even as they open their mails and remain with chat till the end of day. The new generation of IT young at call centers, BPOs and the like, when put on the bench, bored housewives with time on their hands, young students and retired old men found chat a haven for fulfilling connections. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">The community that emerges from such intermingling that happens on a frequent basis, sometimes everyday, becomes a 'real' part of the individual's life. Sometimes this is a mild interlude that is shrugged off as soon as one logs out and at other times it is a devastating intrusion into thoughts and interactions in the real world. Such individuals experience addiction which forces them to go back to the room and engage in the game of blind man's buff, sitting for long hours and neglecting their responsibilities to real life. Like all addictions, there is a drain on time, money, energy and emotional well-being.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p><FONT color=#3366ff><EM>With this blog I begin my second year on rediffiland. I have enjoyed this experience and built in a year a body of reflections that I am proud of, but more importantly I am delighted by the astonishing number of minds I have met here and interacted with. There is something to be said of the virtual world where one has both the banal and the profound. Like the pond that has the muck and boasts the lotus in its midst, it is in the end what we choose from whatever media that is to our profit.</EM> <EM>I thank all of you who have engaged with me in this past year for giving me moments of enlightenment, joy and laughter. </EM></FONT></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home8/598/ee2ae47d70fb2c999468b3c360d6cb16/homep/images/1217057963">]]></description><pubDate>Sat, 26 Jul 2008 13:06:06 +0530</pubDate><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/07/26/THE-VIRTUAL-WORLD-OF-CHAT-PART-I-1.html</link></item><item><title>THE MEDIA FREAK SHOW</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG></STRONG> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">Rajesh Talwar will be released today for lack of evidence. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">After the lull in the spate of murder stories, the press now has fresh fodder for a few more days with a new angle. And the Talwars will witness the brunt of the collective hypocrisy of our media. Suddenly, overflowing tributes will be paid to their stoicism; their tragedy will be highlighted with an eloquence that will put Sophocles to shame. The Press are likely to jostle, nudge, elbow, shin, kick, shove, beat and do what ever it takes to be 'breaking news' an ex-pression akin to and apt in context with 'breaking wind.' <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">Yesterday one already saw a preview of that with one channel herding together all the close members of the family for airtime and questioning them on how they coped! A couple of months back they had wondered what the parents "felt" on seeing the dead daughter!! The curiosity of the press is indeed breathtaking when it comes to such cunning investigative questioning and observations. Now they are talking of how they could not imagine what Talwar must have gone through in 50 nights in that cell without the space to mourn for his child! <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">There were occasional bleats of 'accountability' but they were not enough to pepper an egg. The façade of the free press in <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /><st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">India</st1:place></st1:country-region> exercising its power of being the people's voice in full-throated glory is alive and well. Thank you. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">The main issues ofcourse remain unanswered. The 'show' quickly moved on to display <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Arushi's scrapbook beginning with <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>baby pictures in what they thought was a rare tribute to the dead child. Belated yes, but now is the time to do it for who knows two months back how the whole thing would have turned out. Now it is time to underline the tragedy of the parents and exploit their privacy further. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>All of this allows us to walk the sensational path without grappling with the larger question of what should be done with the UP police or the CBI or whoever else investigated this crime and botched it to the point where an innocent man was given a double tragedy in one go. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">No research was done on what happens to these agencies in other countries. No comparisons <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>were drawn. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Is there a law on what should happen next? Don't we need a law to rap the 'protectors' of law for their 'carelessness'? Ofcourse when there are strict guidelines for scientific investigation in developed countries, as opposed to kitchen gossip theories, the fact that it may not be necessary for them to have any measures against failures, is another matter. Here the CBI feel that they can exonerate themselves by saying Krishna the compounder 'misled' them and sent them on the wrong track. Hello? That kind of investigation surely my dhobi can do? I wonder what the national exchequer pays to keep these goons in business!<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">We were subjected to the Director of the CBI  a man who I am sure would have been as bad in Hindi as was in English. His 'waj' (was) and hij'(his) and 'the Arushi'  was the only thing I could use at the moment to uncharitably jeer in the absence of any kind of punishment that he is likely to come across. His lack of intelligence, his floundering, his indifference to the responsibility that should have been shame-faced were all symptomatic of an apathetic government officer who knows he is never likely to be held accountable. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>The clips of the police slurring Arushi's and Rajesh Talwar's character as motive for the crime were aired once again with no mention of the fact that the man was only transferred or suspended which is like a<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>mild rap on the knuckles. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">The media and police need to be made accountable. Power is certainly not meant to be used like a butcher's knife. I wonder if anyone will ever tell the media a few home truths about itself or about the police when a mike is thrust in front of them for opinion. And that includes the Talwar family. <SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">It is because we never speak up, we are not brash about such truths, that the culprits merely exchange one tragedy for another and carry on in exactly the same fashion. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>As I have said before when shame is lost everything is lost. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P></SPAN><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">In a lot of countries the politicians flinch under the media glare, people who are in power quial under the interrogation, sweat and squirm in their seats under the relentless badgering they get from interviewers. The press speaks for the people and expresses their anger and frustration coherently. That is the job of the press: to cogently put across the thoughts that all of us have and which a lot of us don't know how to word with economy and punch. If the media does what it is meant to do,  people in power will fear it, and worry about coming into positions where they can be asked to account in front of the whole country and made to look like fools. It will stop every criminal and goonda from entering the fray and literally and figuratively having a blast. When is the media likely to understand its own power and stop behaving like hags around a fire? </SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">The special tragedy of this event is that this can happen to any of us. This veneer of democracy in which we live is but a thin veil. The Talwar case has just told us that and we have watched the 'show' and clucked our way through it<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>and 50 nights seems small when we compare it to the undertrials who spend lifetimes waiting for trail. so hota hai yaar.. investigation toh karna padta hai na? .. koshish toh ki na? . ab aage upar wale ki marzi. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang">Are we for real? <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Book Antiqua'; mso-fareast-font-family: Batang"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"></SPAN></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home8/598/ee2ae47d70fb2c999468b3c360d6cb16/homep/images/1215821963">]]></description><pubDate>Sat, 12 Jul 2008 05:48:40 +0530</pubDate><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/07/12/THE-MEDIA-FREAK-SHOW-1.html</link></item><item><title>WHAT IT MEANS TO BE AN ATHEIST</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>I never thought I would one day explain my atheism. But here I am gathering my thoughts together to find out what makes me an atheist. To do that, I would first have to define God  that what I believe does not exist - and then give my reasons why I believe God does not exist. After all atheism is just that  the belief that God does not exist. People who wish to argue often pick on the word 'belief' in that statement and accuse the atheist of harbouring some kind of belief. However, the atheist is not a person who has no kinds of beliefs. It is just that he/she does not believe God exists. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN><P></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>This begs definition of the word 'God'. What is God? Unless we are clear that both the atheist and challenger mean the same thing by the term 'God', the argument will be at cross purposes. God varies from believer to believer. To some it is a spirit, an energy, to others it is a friend who they actually 'see' or 'talk to' or at least believe that they do. To some it is a father figure, a guide, a solace, a crutch, a comfort, a habit, a healer. To others God is wrathful and vengeful, punishing those who have not followed his dictates. For many God is an explanation for the world and its yet unsolved mysteries, an answer to the perennial question: from whence did we come and quo vadis. To a lot of others to believe in God, is to play safe. To ensure that there is reward and avoidance of punishment if there is a God and to lose nothing if there isn't one. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>God, at the end of the day defies imagination in his omnipresent, omniscient and omnipotent self, because the human mind is incapable of holding such magnitudes. Hence, we have the anthropomorphic God, one made in our own image and romanticized in the best of our music and art traditions. Any attempt to bring down this anthropomorphic God brings out the savage ire in man who bares his fangs and is ready to draw blood to 'protect' his God.<o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>God is a wonderful excuse for the intellectually lazy. Enquiry, exploration, reflection are all difficult and time-consuming tasks. They require patience, hypotheses, study, thinking, deliberation and dedication. To seek no answers but to explain the apparently unexplainable in a single word attributing to this invisible, unknown, unseen entity a name and a personality, is to solve problems instantly. Then there is the basking in this created light, where many simply by virtue of uttering the name, believe that they become part of the reflected glory. This further inures them from more endeavours inflicted by the need to know the truth. God becomes a convenience.<o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>Humans have therefore given God a stature that enables them to rest in his gargantuan shadow, a shadow so humongous that it defies the imagination and protects anyone who comes into its 'sharan'.  The walls of this haven have been fortified by priesthood and temples, songs, drama, and the entire machinery of culture that make it not only desirable but also good.Thus the definition of good becomes synonymous with this nebulous God<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>and furthers the convenience of the men who take shelter. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>God is so ubiquitous that He/she becomes a habit. (It has always been a He, till now, in keeping with the patriarchal custom of male supremacy.) When one is conditioned to take a name from childhood the 'oh my God' slips past ones lips quite effortlessly when in a situation requiring succour.<o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>The other use for God is prayer. Man in his fraility and often self-created misery, be it from greed or lust or anger, often needs someone to call to piteously when in pain and despair. God, who need not answer, except by a serendipitous happenstance, when things take their course, is lauded for his mercy and his generosity. God becomes a private counselor and mentor with no real accountability. When things go well, He is the saviour, when things don't work out, He is testing us and we have to bow to his Will. Thus, the old lie goes unchallenged. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>Humans being social animals are extremely unhappy when they are alone. Therefore, the public God, who is kowtowed to jointly in temples and churches and mosques, becomes a collective reality. There is great solace in numbers when one is bound to a lie. The same people would have great discomfort if one were to suggest they should henceforth worship quietly in their homes. They also carry symbols of their gods in the manner of their clothes, hair, rituals, and feel the need to proclaim loudly their beliefs. This causes conflict when birds of different feathers meet and that is the excuse from mutual bad mouthing to terrorist attacks. In the name of God, evil is perpetuated without shame or regret.<o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>God is created by fear. Fear of being visited by disease, death, loss, pain if one were to forsake it. If these fail, there is the fear of hellfire and brimstone and many religions expound the horrors of the flesh that hell would subject them to. The devil is again an anthropomorphic creation to give to hell a 'human' representative in case the whole destination becomes abstract and therefore unbelievable. Mythology does its part in spreading the word of belief with stories and parables.</FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>Another convenient rider thrown into the belief equation is that God must not be challenged. Like the tree of knowledge from which one may never eat, God must not be questioned. This is seen as a kind of virtue. Another very clever way of hiding the unknown from inquisitive eyes. God's word is also the ultimate word so you may not ask any more questions of it. God said so, must suffice as an answer to end all questions.<o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>If religions were born to unite tribes who were on the brink of destruction, then God becomes a social refree with his 'thou shalt nots' and a moral policeman who defines the limits of decency and acceptable standards. Socially, God keeps the peace by making sure the fear of the consequences of sin will make people responsible like nothing else will. Fear of the unknown is the best kind of fear, for we know not what it is that <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>we fear. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>Finally, the symbolic God. God as omnipresent becomes all things in Nature in pantheistic religions. He is the stone, the river, the monkey, the elephant, the snake, the sea. Nature itself being a rhythm, a scientific rhythm has immense grace and purpose and charm. Nature lends itself well to define the niraakara God. Physical symbols are easy to understand. Abstract symbols require a lot of transference to be understood and experienced. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>Now that I have kind of defined God, we can understand the atheist better. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>Atheism is a rational exercise. It does not carry the emotionality of the theist, or the physicality of the ritualist. It is therefore almost lackluster in its practicality. It is the difference and the rebelliousness of atheism that gives it its glamour. It is therefore easy to judge people who differ and take a separate stand, as arrogant and negative. There is much anger against any breakaways when the God concept has been constructed with such care, for so long and with so many safeguards in place. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>Many atheists are rabid. Richard Dawkins is one. Intelligent, rational and rabid. I don't see any reason for the atheist to overstate his case. Like theism it is a journey that everyman must make for himself. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>The other kind of atheist is the 'betrayed theist'. This one has come to his/her conclusions of atheism based on betrayal by their God. Someone dear has died and so belief has been abandoned. This kind of narrow perceptive atheism will be short lived. All it takes is a small miracle of coincidence for them to go running back to the temple with coconuts. Several films that are made, move the God propaganda machinery towards these kind of stories to convince the believers and to warn those who are likely to stray. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>Then there is the half-hearted, non-conformist atheist. This one ends his atheism with a 'but' I am an atheist but... There is doubt and there is fear. This one will switch sides in certain company. Confused and befuddled there is a need to be both. Like bi-sexuals they have their own cross to carry. Like the man on the fence they battle snide remarks from both sides.<o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>Atheism is not a badge. It is the right to believe that something does not exist because there is no proof. If proof is found anytime in the future, acceptable proof that is, objective proof, then there will be belief too. And if there is a God I am sure he is wise and just enough to understand that some of us need proof and that is reasonable. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> :)</SPAN><o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>True Atheism is about freedom and enquiry. It is about listening to anyone who is ready to reason as opposed to blindly believe. It is opposed to anyone who speculates that it is better to believe, which is just an opinon. It does not limit because it is based on the search for truth and true humility in its resolve to surrender to reason.Atheism is not pretentious for exactly the same reason. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>The tag 'atheist' must not be likened to a theist who is bound by patterns of behaviour, rituals, customs, philosophies etc. An atheist on the other hand is an observer, one who appreciates all efforts at seeking the truth, one who can see beyond what is apparent, one who is willing to deliberate with any belief within reason, one who is willing to change his/her belief if there is enough objective evidence to the contrary. <o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><o:p><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></STRONG></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><FONT color=#330033><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif"><FONT size=4>My apologies to Amit for writing a blog on Atheism instead of writing a preamble for a new religion. Amit, that is an idea whose time has not yet come!<o:p></o:p></FONT></FONT></FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: Batang"><STRONG><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"><FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#330033 size=4> </FONT></SPAN><o:p></o:p></STRONG></SPAN></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home8/598/ee2ae47d70fb2c999468b3c360d6cb16/homep/images/1214909187">]]></description><pubDate>Tue, 01 Jul 2008 15:52:54 +0530</pubDate><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/07/01/WHAT-IT-MEANS-TO-BE-AN-ATHEIST.html</link></item><item><title>ARRESTING THE LAW</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Crime and law are partners bound by vigorous handcuffs. They are two sides of the same coin  opposites, linked so inextricably, that the boundaries seem to blur and like Orwell's pig and man one cannot tell which is which. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Nowhere is this seamless blending more true than in <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /><st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">India</st1:place></st1:country-region> where the seats of administration and thereby law are densely occupied by  unproven and yet- to- be- proven criminals. The Constitution itself grants them the right to rule. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">In such a state of law, the increasing spate of murders and suicides galloping in outrageous succession on a daily basis must not strike despair. However, these are not hardened criminals but our everyday naval officers, aspiring entertainers, wannabe small town migrant girls with stars in their eyes, ubiquitous IT couples, housewives, corporate managers. it could well be you and me.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">The surprise is also in the nature of the crime, such, that has been hitherto found only in the annals of serial and psychopathic killers who need to find ingenious ways to stimulate or pacify their chaotic minds. It is not the crime of passion in finding the killer's girlfriend with her lover that startles you, but the manner in which the body of the victim is then cold bloodedly hacked into appropriate tidbits to fit into carry bags and transported to be burnt in a remote forest. After that, the methodical clean up, the shopping, the charade of lodging missing complaints using the aid of unsuspecting friends adds to the drama.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>It is the stuff Hadley Chase novels are made of. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Coming on the heels of this crime is the Arushi murder case where the girl's parents are suspect and the police are arrest-happy. Our police remand and then ask questions. When nothing is found there is no apology on the part of the police or the judge for the arrest of or trauma to the victim. There is no compensation either by the state as in the West. Under these circumstances there is no special care taken to ascertain facts and the police enjoy wide unfettered draconian powers without accountability. Our CSI non-existant. Our police work is all about 'beating' confessions out of suspects rather than painstakingly collecting forensic, circumstantial and documental evidence that would be admissable in a court,  before confronting and arresting a suspect.</SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Loss of memory regarding the exact chain of events and the details of what clothes the Talwars wore on the night of the murder are seen as major covering up of facts. One cannot begin to comprehend the agony and horror of parents in a situation of finding their only child dead with a slit throat. Their daze must be a part of their survival mechanism. I remember the shock of a parked car pulling out and hitting me in motion. After chasing the car for a good mile, I had no memory of its colour so I am not sure how reliable memory would be when one goes into devastating shock like the murder of a child.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">The police are at sea. They have nothing to go on except suspicions. They have no explanations and they expect 'cooperation' and one wonders if that is some euphemism for sub radar pressure to get the suspect to confirm some of their pet theories. When the police botch up they are given gentle raps on the knuckles in the form of transfers, whatever that means. Meanwhile, reputations have been besmirched beyond repair and no on pays. The media abets this homicide by the law, changing colours with a temerity, that would put a flamboyant chameleon to shame.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Even if one were to forgive some extremes in murder investigations, cast your regard on the growing menace of arrests for "abetting suicides". Abetting is defined by the dictionary as approve, encourage, or urge an action or plan. Woe betide the man who has had an affair, been a friend, a sympathetic colleague, mingling single man or divorced ex- husband if the woman in a fit of anger or depression decides to take her own life. His arrest is almost immediate under section 107 of the IPC. He is then paraded by the media for all he is worth. His family, friends, ex girl friends, estranged wives, online buddies are called, questioned, interviewed, slurred, suspected without compunction. His crime?<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>He refused to marry the girl who died. Arjun Menon is the latest of the victims of this kind of knee jerk arrests. However, the MLA husband of Padmapriya the latest latest among the suicide belles, has been spared arrest  a point to note your Honour. Interestingly, no woman is picked up when a man she rejected commits suicide. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">So if you have the misfortune of having an affair with a weak woman you are looking at your house being searched, your computer hardware probed, your cell phone records scrutinized, being spurned by your friends, shamed in your community and shunned by everyone.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">All your women friends stand the risk of being interrogated by our diligent police force because you are not supposed to have any friends of the opposite sex. This could inadvertently damage their reputations by insinuating unhealthy speculations. It is all part of police work because you refused to marry someone or elope with her or whatever and the woman took her life. </SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Be ready also for financial ruin. You could lose your job, have a jail record which you will need to disclose in a lot of places, you need money to bribe your way out of jail and bad press, not to speak of hefty criminal lawyer fees. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Then there will be righteous women's groups and relentless relatives of the dead girl baying for your blood long after the dust has settled.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">What kind of archaic law is this? Don't these victims have any rights? Who is going to question the intrusion on privacy? The malicious slander? How does a person outlive that? Who will compensate the injustice and who will pay? <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">The heat generated by these crime investigations never let up. For weeks, the channels go after the whodunit with salacious delight. Every moment is a screeching ground breaking speculation. The reporters are like vultures asking the most ridiculous questions. I particularly remember that goon Arnab of 'Time Now' asking Nupur Talwar "What did you feel when you saw your dead daughter?" I wonder at his sanity. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Older sensational cases like the Afzal guru case have lost their sheen and simmer on the back burners. Kasliwal's rape victim is suddenly missing and so there is a possibility of a 'no show no case' when it comes up for hearing. Soon the present sansanikez cases will become low in visibility, when fresh gossip comes up and<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>eager audiences lap up new salacious episodes in true soap opera tradition, waiting eagerly for the next installment. Violence and sex in real life is unbeatable. We are all voyeurs even as we make those sympathetic noises. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">And so, the brides burn, husbands rape wives and the voiceless screams of abused children get smothered under the family umbrella.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>Ministers not disclosing their wealth are forgotten, and even as the PM mildly bleats out his austerity measures, they  get political immunity. R.R. Patil dithers over the arrest of <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>Raj Thakeray and his goons, who so blatantly beat up innocent Bihari labourers on camera. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">Crime stalks our lives in various forms  committed by everyone either through commission or omission.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>The law? What law? When the law is guilty, who, as Lady Macbeth averred, can call it to account?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><br><img src="http://ri.rediffiland.com/homepimages/home8/598/ee2ae47d70fb2c999468b3c360d6cb16/homep/images/1213725237">]]></description><pubDate>Tue, 17 Jun 2008 23:10:36 +0530</pubDate><link>http://lissome.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/06/17/ARRESTING-THE-LAW.html</link></item><item><title>DENUDING NUDITY</title><description><![CDATA[<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'">Man is born nude and is everywhere in a state of shame over it just as the Rosseauvian man who is born free,  is everywhere in chains. <SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>This post was inspired by the Lady Godiva blog posted by my friend hardhitter (hardhitter.rediffiland.com)</SPAN></B><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'">, which set me thinking on the subject of nudity. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'">Lady Godiva rode through the crowded marketplace in the nude because of a dare from her husband.<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>A wager that he would bring down the taxes in Coventary if she dared to do it. The speculation after the event, which shocked the husband, was whether the lady, who was religious, should be canonized for her social largesse or be deemed a repressed exhibitionist who wanted to seek the attention of her bored husband. The whole dynamics of the male female relationship on the subject of nudity is speculated on. The romantics, many among them monks who vowed<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>to claim sainthood for<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>Godiva, circulated<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>stories of how her 'purity' blinded the lecherous and kept her 'clothed' because no eyes actually 'saw' her in the nude state - a reversal of the Emperor of the new clothes fame. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'">Children growing up in nudist colonies or even offspring of parents who are mindless of being seen nude by them from birth, will have a lower tickle factor at the sight of nude bottoms or breasts or private parts. Repressed societies that cover up all parts except eyes are likely to be titillated at the sight of an imagined wrist or ankle. All things taboo have  excited and<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPAN>aroused much more than mere curiosity. Shame has been conditioned early at the cradle stage in human children with the puppy shame business of reprimanding their innocent uncovered bits or with a chee chee. that often stays in the psyche and later emerges as sexual dysfunction of many varieties, not all of them physical.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></B></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><B><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Bradley Hand ITC'">Anthropologically the Neanderthal was nude but was also<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> too </SPAN>hirsuite to have resembled Adam and Eve in their garden, roaming in idyllic contentment<SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </SPA